How To Find Out (And Achieve) What You Really Want

writing Valentines Day is coming up and while you may have visions of heart shaped boxes, cheesy jewelry commercials, and dozens of roses dancing in your heads, I want to shift the focus to something a little more…well, real.

Because though  chocolate tastes good, it 's not going to solve your troubles. And though unwrapping a little blue box is fun, it's never going to contain happiness.

Part of being happy and content is living a life aligned with your purpose. And in order to do that, the first step is to find out what you really want. 

 Here’s a little personal fact about me – I have a little tendency to want things I don't have. It’s not a serious condition, but I can sometimes be found watching The Bachelor and saying “I wish I was in a cabana in Cabo”, or hearing a story about someone going on a helicopter ride and thinking “I want to do that!”

I think we all do that to some degree.  And while I’m not really serious about wanting everything I say I do (though I would like to go to Cabo), I’ve learned that it's much more effective to focus on one thing, rather than having a million different ideas bouncing around in your mind.

I have this little technique to determine just how much I actually want something.  I call it “Write It Down 100 Times”.  I know, lackluster title, but great technique.

Here’s what you do - bring to mind something you think you want.  It’s often related to something you find yourself saying all the time. “I wish I could lose 15 pounds,” or, “I want to make more money”.

Now, I’m not going to start quoting The Secret or talk about the Law Of Attraction here, but when it comes to goal writing it makes sense to write what you want as if you already have it, rather than something you want.

So for example, yours might be “I am so happy now that I weigh 120lbs,” or whatever it may be.  Notice I put a little emotion into it, eg “happy”.  I figure if we can feel or experience what it would be like if we achieve our goal, all the better.

Also notice I keep it simple.  I could have said, “I am so happy that I eat healthy, exercise daily, and weigh 120lbs.”  Firstly of all “eat healthy” is not measurable.  A better one would be “I eat four servings of green leafy vegetables a day.”  Secondly, there are THREE goals here – eat healthy, exercise daily, and weight loss.

Then the fun part:  write the whole sentence down 100 times.  

And don’t think to yourself, “I’d totally write it down 100 times.  Easy.”  Do it!  See if you can.  Because I’ll tell you, if you don’t, or if you start and don’t finish, I can tell you that you don’t really want it.  And don’t try saying, “Well sure I do, I just don’t want to write it down 100 times.”

Listen, if you want something – I mean reeeally want it – you should be willing to do anything to get it, including writing it down 100 times.

Today I want you to take some time to think about one thing you really want to achieve. Then, put yourself to the test.  State it as a short, present-tense goal, imagine the goal being true, and then write it down 100 times.  If you don’t, then you may not really want it that badly and should probably move on to something else you might or might not want.

PS: Probably 99% of the things I say I want wouldn’t pass this test.  Try it and let me know how it works for you!

Two Tools for Helping You Discover What You Really Want:

 planner1. The Inner Guide 2015 Planner Mine just arrived a week ago and I'm obsessed!

Planners are about making & keeping appointments, right? This one is sooo much more. While there's plenty of space to keep your schedule straight, it also helps you to keep track of bigger picture things. It encourages you to visualize your ideal day, cultivate your overall vision for life, and take daily actions to help you stay present and focused. It has spaces to help you practice gratitude, reflect on your week, and write down your inspired thoughts.

If you find yourself getting sidetracked with to-do lists, losing your way in the daily grind, or just wanting to add a bit of intention and depth to your day to day life, this is a fantastic tool.

essentail oil2. Essential Oils – If you've been following me on facebook, you've probably noticed my love for essential oils. I've been doing so much research on them and they really, truly are more than just a pretty smell. One way they can be used is to to bring focus and enhancement to finding and achieving your goals. Here are a few of my favorites:

  • Abundance– This essential oil blend exemplifies the true power of synergy; together, all of its component oils are magnified in vibration, creating the law of attraction and the energy and frequency of prosperity and plentitude.*
  • Build Your Dream – This essential oil blend empowers and clarifies to reveal the future of your dreams when used aromatically.*
  • Envision – This blend renews focus and stimulates creative and intuitive abilities needed to achieve goals and dreams. It helps to reawaken internal drive and independence to overcome fears and emotional blocks*
  • Magnify Your Purpose – This Essential Oil blend stimulates the endocrine system for greater energy flow to the right hemisphere of the brain, activating creativity, motivation, and focus. This helps strengthen commitment to purpose, desire, and intentions until you realize your goal.*


You can order your essential oils here. Don't forget, you can get them all at 24% off!  And of course, I'm happy to help so don't hesitate to contact me if you have any questions.

And remember...


*(Source: Essential Oils Pocket Reference 6th Edition)